People with similar interests can be the best of friends, but only opposites attract

Never worry about pleasing everybody, or bothering about those who don't agree with you

Always remember, its basic science, we all would have tripped and fallen, had the floor not offered resistance.

As a matter of fact, you do need two 1's to make a 2. Neither is capable of achieving the summation alone. And without each other, they are just a unique entity, nothing more, nothing less.

Hence as much as one 1 should worry about being alone without the other, so should the other 1 care too.

It's not revenge. It's just making you feel how I felt ;)

Smoking could be the worst kind of masochism. You obviously need a very good reason to reduce 6 minutes of your life by inhaling tons of something everyday

Miracles do happen, only if you believe in them. 

No belief, no magic

Not everything in life will happen on its own.. If its not happening, take charge and make it happen

Never try to fix the small problems in any situation. Look at the bigger picture. It shouldn't be that in order to fix the parts, you lose the meaning as a whole :)

If people give you their 'intuitions', 'insights' or any such forecast.. Don't fret

If they 'see' you getting what you want, work towards it

If they 'see' you not getting what you want. accept it as a challenge and make it happen :)

Life is like a roller coaster ride, fat ti bhi hai par mazza bhi aata hai ;)

Never get so comfortable or "used to" something. You never know, as soon as you start accommodating to the key, God changes the lock, or who knows, maybe the whole door!

Thank the hurdles that come in your way while you are out there to get something. Whats the point of getting something without fighting for it? 

If you don't gett something you want, don't think its out of reach, perhaps just your approach towards it needs to change :)

And as we sit here crying, feeling sorry for ourselves and others
regretting things we did, mistakes we made, or could have
made, I feel that someone sitting right there above, beyond
mortal imagination, is laughing at us all, looking at how
restricted our visions could get

Yes shit happens, daily, all the time, every now and then
But well, don't we all take medicines for constipation too! :)

In life, you will get what you want, depending on how badly you need it, the only thing which might differ is the way in which you get it :)

Things will come to you, even what you want, and even those which are best for you, after considerable amounts of patience and wait,
It is how you behave during that wait which is what that actually counts! :)

This time, this day, this exact moment, however it is, good, bad or ugly, will never come back

Its entirely upto us as to what we make of it :)

I agree our life is not a movie.. So we shouldn't expect things to turn out magically too
But aren't all movies, in some or the other way, inspired by real life stories too? 

All your life you will have a bill in your hand and wait for someone to come and and fit into it
Till you meet someone who'll walk in randomly and you can't help but say. "Screw the bill, lets make a new one around him" ;)

"A time comes when an association between two people/partners etc goes through a turmoil or strain. That strain can last for 2 minutes to as long as 20 years. But if the relationship sails through that, it always was meant to be and if it doesn't then its existence was never meant to be at the first place"

As opposed to common perception, the difference of love is not hate, but indifference. If you have feelings strong enough to hate someone then there will be a little bit of love in it too. So don't worry if someone hates you as there may be a little love involved, but yes you are in real trouble if that person becomes indifferent to you

"Destruction is not when you don't eat, don't sleep, don't drink, don't work, don't talk, don't smile, don't cry, don't move, don't be yourself etc. Its then when you know it all but still do absolutely nothing about it"

"You only realise the value of things once they have gone away from you. Even worse, when you have them right next to you knowing that you'll never be able to have them back again"

The many mistakes of my life :P

So with the way things have been shaping up in my life in the last one year.. And are continuing to shape up exactly in the same yet contradictory way.. I swear.. Like the way Chetan Bhagat said it before his first book.. I ll say the same thing.. If I make through this.. And if it all makes sense in the end.. I swear I ll write a book...

P.S. This post will advocate for that!

What goes around comes back around

Yes this is a song which my future husband had composed when one of his ex-girlfriends (bitch… but yayy for me :P) had dumped him. By future husband I mean Justin Timberlake (Seriously Justin, I can so makes babies with you) and by bitch I mean err.. I dunno. Anyways that’s not the point in any case. The point here is that how this song entered my life exactly at the right point and kept on reiterating till I got it all back.  Lemme tell people who have heard it before. Like Scarlett Johannsen, I didn’t cheat on my Justin, and the whole chain of series which unfolds in the song is nowhere close to what I did. The only thing which kept taunting me were these 6 words. Here’s the chronology of events:

1.   My brother came to Mumbai in June. Gave me the song. I heard. Got shocked. Swore never to listen to it again. Ended up listening to it all from Thane to Goregaon on a loop (2 hours of bus ride). Traumatized, had a terrible day at office.

2.   2 days later, was chilling in office with friends, read my horoscope, after almost a month. First line read ‘Dear Gemini, what goes around comes back around, and you need to know that’. My friends blamed it on my boyfriend, who had mercilessly broken up with me on my birthday and told its for him not for you etc. (He did come back the next day, but then friends take more time to get over your break up or patch up than you so well :P). Deep down inside I knew what exactly had to come around and I was dreading that when would it.

3.   A month later, in college the teacher caught me dozing off in class. Woke me up and said, “Avni, please don’t sleep, you see, if you sleep now, you’ll sleep in the exam also, what goes around comes back around”. I, almost terrified to death didn’t sleep that whole effing night.

4.   30^th July. Was sitting and chilling with my friend in IIT and having this bare it all talk. The only 2 things he said after I was done were, “Avni that’s so not cool” and “I believe in karma, what goes around comes back around, so you be prepared.” Scared as hell, I decided never to talk to him again. Never. (He is one of my closest friends now.  I am BBMing him as I write this piece :P)

5.   Late august, late night, I randomly made up a stupid lie and told my friend. He completely hurt and shattered by it was weeping and told me “Avni, I hope and believe that it is a lie. But such a pathetic lie was never expected. And tomorrow I seriously hope you suffer so much that you realize what you made me feel right now.” He thankfully didn’t use those 6 dreaded words but well he meant that. My Dad had told me once “If someone loves you a lot, God listens to each and every wish he makes for you. But if ever you have hurt him and the same person makes a bad wish for you, God listens to it as well. I was traumatized after my friend told me this and knew something terrible has to happen. And soon.

Well yes, I did get it all back and yes God made me learn my lesson the hard way. I did bad, and I got it back too. But there are a lot of sad and incomplete bits I realized while I was at it. Read it slowly to understand.  It is said you do bad to someone, you will get it back. That someone was always good to you and you were bad to him so you lose-lose he win-win. But how would you feel that the person himself was also never right to you in the first place ever. Now you may say he/she was wrong I also wronged hisaab barabar. But what if you realize in that hisaab barabar that person has thrown another wrong out to the universe. And yes, whatever goes around comes back around. Ask me, I’ll advocate for it.

P.S. I know this post was as vague and fictitious as it could get. I just had to get the point across. And you at times need a story to support that point. I know I have thrown a terrible piece to some of my regular readers. You also hope and pray I get back for inflicting this torture on you :P

Wassaaaaappppppppppppppp B!t&!-!

The Oxford dictionary defines bitch as ¹ a female dog or any other animal of the dog family, ² a woman esp a cruel and unpleasant one, ³ a difficult problem or situation. This is the standard and the most widely accepted spelling and definition of the word. But off late I have come across contradictory plus appalling things like “I looveeeeeeeeeeee u my biaaaatcchhhhh” and “You made me proud my biyaaaaaatchhh” to the most innovative “Happy birthday my darling beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeecch” 

Someone please volunteer and explain me as per the above definition how can you love someone who’s actually “a woman whom you find unpleasant and cruel”

Honestly I am not dumb enough to take it all in its literal sense but it just occurred to me that aren’t we all unknowingly killing our relationships by being fake and acting something that we are not. I really don’t understand how many people even actually mean the “I love u biiiiiiiiiiiiiiitcchhhh” when they litter each other’s walls with stuff like this.  Seriously again my point, if you add bitch to the name itself, the love anyways goes out of the window.

Me: Aren’t you two great friends?

The Babe: No we are not, what made you think so yaa?

Me: No the stuff you post on each other’s walls, I thought you are like BFFs

The Babe: Dude seriously! She keeps doing that aaaaaaallllllll the time. If I don’t reply looks rude no. We don’t even call each other to you know like talk talk. Anyways you stay away from her. She is one big time bitch I tell you.

Me (thinking): Ya right! That’s exactly what you wrote! Didn’t know you mean it too!

Haven’t we all, at least once, gone through a conversation like this or seen other examples where people (read female friends) express their undying love (read my sexy bittccchhhhh, I love youuuuu!!!! ) for each other on Facebook and ‘bitch’ about the same bittccchhhh everywhere else.I don’t understand why all the bitch business with affection in the morning when it will actually get bitchy in the evening.

Not to be a pessimist but with incidents like these, it feels sick to see the stuff plastered all over your homepage . Coz you know, none of it makes no sense at all. And all this just welcomes you to a world where friends are made only to increase your friend list on Facebook.  Where pictures are clicked not for memories but to ‘Let’s make others jealous’. Where there is no consistency that someone would even remember your name if you opted out of that LEGENDDAARRRYYYYYYYYYYY night-out plan they had.

Anyways I have emphasized on the Misuses of the word Bitch a lot. I myself call all my male friends a bitch (sadistic pleasure it gives me, I don’t know why! :P) But sadly I don’t believe in crapping each other’s inboxes and walls with this BS. And to those of my friends whom I call bitch, anyone else dareth not! Else I’ll unleash the bitch in me!

So a kind request. Please keep the “Oh my partner in crime”, “My love”, “My baby let’s make babies” in check and stop taking our home page for granted. As this “Lowwweee” will definitely not last longer. But the baby you made might just turn into one real, huge, big time  bitchhhhhhhhhhhhh! ;)

Being PIN-less!

So two days back my Blackberry decided to show its black side and went ahead to hang itself forever. Helpless, handicapped and with a feeling like someone had asked me for my ancestral property I gave it to the Happy to Help Mobile Store lady. “I want it back in two days”, I told her with a sinister gleam in my eyes. “Else.. Urghh.. Seriously, 2 days max!”

 So the sinister expression didn’t work and she wasn’t too happy to help me either. It’s been 2 days and I am sitting pale white, without a hint of black in my life. But living without it I couldn’t help but notice that how much time I have spent with my family due to its absence. They say, a phone brings you closer to those sitting away, but takes you farther from those sitting near you.  Boy!  They are right! I not only could sit and talk to my family but finish so many pending issues which could have taken me eons to complete. Courtesy BBM, Whatsapp and Whatnot.

I am all in favour of androids and apps and push mail and push to die or whatever, but till a year ago when all these things were alien to our ears, work was still done. Our parents complained that they had no options, we complain that we have too many. But didn’t they very efficiently do all their work even in times of a landline. Forget working, wasn’t dating much simpler then! Now you give a guy your BB pin, Facebook name, Google Plus Id (did I miss something, Oh yes, sorry, your phone number!) and if he doesn’t reply see how doomed you are. Earlier rejection was only when he didn’t call you back. Now it’s “Atleast he could have added me on BB, or maybe just poked me on Facebook. Oh my God is my profile picture so bad and blaaaaaaaaaahh!” Seriously being rejected by a call was easier than being rejected by a zillion other technologies!

Trust me work will happen. That mail will reach your client, even if you just go home have coffee and then type it out. No one will run away.  And people would think of you more as a psycho than cool if you are hooked to your Blackberry 24/7.

So keep the black thing aside, or whatever the colour your virtual life is for a while and de-clutter these numerous tabs open on your browser. Life is simpler without the constant nagging and “Hey wassups”. Seriously let the term retain its meaning “That I am just a call away.”No pokes or pings or buzzes should take away its meaning!

Anyway that’s my opinion, you figure out your own

Smile if you like it, laugh if you don’t! :) 

The (Un) Social Network

“Oh so you have all the time in the world to like your cousin’s facebook status and no time to like our pic together” I accused my boyfriend for such a hideous crime he committed last evening. He, looking at me as if I had caught him assaulting someone, very calmly replied. I didn’t like our pic together coz I don’t like that pic of ours together.  And how does it matter if I liked that pic or not. I like us together. So I like the real version. Not your facebook virtual version of us.” As much as he made sense, angered at being defeated, I slammed the phone down saying “Stop giving excuses. Just simply say you are embarrassed of me and our relationship. Period.” And a lot of mothers and sisters followed (from my side of course) and I decided not to talk to him forever! (Read the next 3-4 hours or so)

It’s been 2 hours and 40 minutes and I can’t help but think, “Didn’t I just act like the world’s most stupid girlfriend and shouted at the poor guy for nothing at all” “Didn’t I just ‘to be famous’ or ‘cool’ in the virtual world put something so real to a test.” We all live 2 lives, I understand. One where you are a bespectacled girl carrying a jhola and putting real make up and no lights or Photoshop to look good. And one being a sexy seductress looking hot-hotter-hottest with every passing picture in your facebook albums. I don’t understand which is more real now. I don’t understand why one of the pre-requisites to date a guy is to see his number of friends on Facebook “Ohh they are lesser than mine, boo him”. I don’t understand why is it so important even between best friends to ‘like’ each other’s statuses and comment on each other’s pics to avoid fights.

There were times when insecurity for me meant if my boyfriend ‘really’ complemented a girl. Now insecurity means if he just goes and likes her facebook status. The case is the same from both sides “Why did you chat with him?” “Why did that guy comment on your status?” And now with that stupid video chat that Zuckerberg introduced the insecurity is at its peak. Bamm!

Even as I write this blog I am sitting brain dead with tabs of Facebook, Gtok, Yahoo messenger, Google Plus, LinkedIn and I don’t know what else on. So much so that a blog which could have taken me 2 hours at the max took 4 days to complete.

I love social media. I see it as the greatest platform for anything I do. But what off late I have been scared of is the “social media clutter”. I cannot do anything as someone pinged me; I cannot work on anything as someone just wants to video chat. I know I can avoid it, but it’s highly addictive!! There are times when I feel a lot of fights between a lot of relationships can be avoided if we stop this “Oh so you are ashamed of being ‘in a relationship’ with me” or “Ohh so you like each and every post of his and not mine. Is he more important or me?”

Seriously I agree I cannot live without facebook, but perhaps a lot of time and energy will be saved if we just stop whiling away our time on facebook and invite issues out of nothing. Trust me the more people talk the more they know they about each other, the more judgmental they get and the more relations break. Whoever has to stay in touch would stay in touch. These widgets and apps notwithstanding.

So I have said too much, I can rant about it forever. So the nest few posts will be about that. But I guess people who have to understand will understand!

Anyways I was sad and depressed, hence the tone

Smile if you like it, laugh if you don’t ;)